For whatever things were written before were written for our learning, that we through the patience and comfort of the Scriptures might have hope.
I wonder if you feel alone in the relationship issues you are facing right now? You have prayed but there seems to be no help from God.
It’s time to look more closely at the men and women in the scripture. Their stories are not just for our learning, but for our comfort and help; so that we can see how their lives turned out and gain hope, strength and encouragement from them.
So many believers read the Bible superficially, and understand everything idealistically. Meanwhile they live their lives in reality and fail to find the connection between their life and what God has written in His Word for us.
But the truth is that the entire Bible is an exposition of the interplay of human relationships.
When you start in the book of Genesis and discover in the first few chapters that God’s perspective is that it is not good for a man to be alone; you have to concede that human beings are built for relationship.
Eve was created as a feminine expression of Adam’s masculinity. They were one flesh, until sin came in to destroy their unity. Straight away they started to point the finger and fail to take responsibility for what they did.
In other words, the spirit of division entered their relationship.
Satan attacked their relational harmony because he wanted to nullify their purpose. he knew that a house divided against itself would fall, and when it seems like your house is in danger of falling, remember that the devil is after something bigger than your money and your personal effects – he is after your purpose in the Earth.
From that moment onwards, every family has been dysfunctional in one way or another. There is no such thing as a family where everything is sound and completely whole, although, of course, there are also degrees of dysfunction.
Sin ruins everything. You might look holy right now, but everyone has a time when their circumstances push them to do things that they never thought they would do.
Imagine how Adam and Eve felt when they had to bury their child, because his brother had murdered him! Yet all they had done was to teach both Cain and Abel to sacrifice to God. One brother desired to please, and ended up the worse off, even though he did nothing wrong; the other was determined to do his own thing, regardless of the consequences. Does that sound like your house?
And then Cain had to continue in life without hiding or checking out, walking among those who knew his issues, since the mark was on his forehead. Shame and embarrassment was his portion. For how many of us is that the case? Earlier in life we made mistakes that brought reproach, and now we still have to face those who know what we did and try to live out our lives with dignity and purpose.
Abraham and Sarah faced the issues of infertility and mutual disappointment. How hard it is when your spouse wants something so desperately from you, but you cannot give it. The pressure that Sarah felt must have been great for her to suggest that her husband sleep with her maid!
Noah was a man with outward notoriety, but a family who were ashamed of him. He spent all his life achieving a great accomplishment, but his relationship with his son was ropey, and after all that glamour and success, he was found lying naked and drunk, and his son was not even willing to cover him.
This is the emptiness of a human being who has focused his efforts on accomplishments at the expense of close relationship. The truth of all of our lives is that we need others to feed our souls. In fact we can tell that you are dealing with some serious issues when you get to the point where you assert categorically that you don’t need other people in your life. It’s time to come back to God and allow Him to heal your broken places.
David was a man whose father never believed in him. When the time came for the prophet to anoint a king, Jesse didn’t even believe that David should be in the line up of possible candidates. Not only that but, while the girls lining the streets celebrated him, his own wife, Michal, despised him. Maybe Bathsheba was a symptom of something deeper in David’s heart that yearned for affirmation.
Joseph was betrayed. His whole family were his enemies. When the time came for him to have the opportunity to avenge himself on them, what should he do? You are tempted to make your enemies pay, but what does that say about your character? It makes you worse than the ones who hurt you originally.
Jacob and Esau were born at loggerheads with one another, and it wasn’t the fault of their parents. But their parents were divided in who they favored because of it.
Abigail was the woman who married a fool, and carried the burden of his folly; although unlike many women, at least she was aware of it!
These examples and others reveal the traumatic struggles of men and women with real life relational issues. No test or trial that you go through is uncommon to man. Can it be that the Bible has healing in it for you?
Maybe your issue is not that the doors are closed to the things you want out of life; maybe it is simply that your soul is sick.
Come to a place of realization before God, “There is nothing in my life that you don’t know; and You are the God of my broken places.”
Don’t be intimidated by your own wounds of life. You do not need to run or to hide. God will make something special out of what remains of your life if you will give who you are to Him in all honesty.
You can receive beauty for ashes and double for all your trouble. You will never look back because the blood of Jesus will clean your conscience to where you no longer even remember the shame of your youth.
Even in the face of these things, you can still look forward to many good days!