Ephesians 5:17, 21
Therefore do not be unwise, but understand what the will of the Lord is… submitting to one another in the fear of God.
All of us want great relationships, but are we prepared to do what it takes to have them? No relationship is going to be happy if it is dominated by one of the people in it. The wisdom of God is for us to submit to one another, out of respect for the unique value of the other in God’s sight.
Building a relationship takes time. It is one interaction after another. These interactions create an atmosphere in which your relationship can thrive, if the individuals involved treat each other as equals, with honor and respect.
If your relationship is struggling, maybe you have never developed the right atmosphere. The atmosphere in your house is more important than the daily exchanges. When the atmosphere is negative, someone is feeling devalued.
If you spend your time trying to bend the will of the other without their consent, you will only build resentment. There will be no sweetness in that relationship. You may think you are winning because you have the final say in the argument, but you have lost the person’s goodwill.
The best relationships exist in an atmosphere of peace and harmony. Notice that harmony is only possible where there is difference. You cannot sing a harmony if all the singers sing the same part. When you celebrate the differences that one another have, instead of trying to squash or ignore them, you produce a greater sound.
Remember that your wife, or husband, or friend or family member is a member of the body of Christ, just as you are. They have equal value to you. Allow them their different view point. Honor them even if you think you are right and they are wrong. Let God work, but do not violate their right to be an individual of worth. That is how you build great relationships!
Heavenly Father, thank you for your wisdom for my relationships. I recognize that all the people in my life are of equal value in your sight. I commit to respecting and honoring each one today.
Give me grace when things get tough; when I know I am right, but I cannot get their willing agreement. I receive your wisdom for those moments and believe you that I am able to build great relationships, one interaction at a time. Thank you, Lord.