Song of Solomon 7:10
I am my beloved’s,
And his desire is toward me.
Despite the popular belief that the “forbidden fruit” of sex outside marriage is the most exciting and fulfilling, the truth is that sex within a long term, covenant relationship causes every other experience to pale into insignificance.
When sex becomes just an act – even within marriage – it becomes something far less than what it was intended to be. Sex is not something you do; it is a place where you go – and you only go there with the one person you are married to. It is exclusive and exciting. You are the only one who gives themselves up for the other. You carry one another to a different place. It is a taste of heaven.
So many people have engaged in sex, but have never been transported. So many people have had sexual experience, but it has been shallow compared to God’s design.
The desire for sexual intimacy is like a fire within us; if your mind doesn’t process it, it will consume you.
The majority of people who mess up with all kinds of sexual perversions, do so because they failed to accept how sexual they are. If you make sex your focus, your strength will be drained, and your purpose will suffer. In fact, your productivity in life will be directly proportionate to your ability to rein in and channel your sexuality.
I have great respect for single people who master themselves and take control of their bodies, but if you are single because you prefer to be a player than commit, it’s time to recognize that you have settled for something inferior. Extra-marital sex is ultimately empty and lacking emotional depth.
Commitment doesn’t diminish sex, it adds to it. Christians who are ready to give their whole selves to their marriage partner enjoy the best sex of all.
Who told you that living longer with one another means ending up living with your sister?
We can want what we already have with passion; we can intoxicate ourselves with one another and experience a fulfillment that is unparalleled.
The secret lies in planning a night when you are going to give yourself to your husband or wife. You have a sense of anticipation about the appointment you make. If you are tempted to fuss and get angry with one another, you stop yourself, because you are looking forward to your appointment and you have made a decision to have a great time together.
Make it creative, imaginative and fresh. You have a license to enjoy one another with full access. Make of it everything you want!
Pray and commit
Heavenly Father, I take you at your word that sex is your gift and it belongs to me within marriage. Thank you that you will take me to the place in my life where I can enjoy sexual relations in the fullness of your design and intention. Help me with my sexuality, as I commit to doing things your way. Thank you for the grace to live out my intended purpose without getting pulled off course by the fire on the inside, and thank you for your goodness to me in this area of my life.