The nature of true love and intimacy

Genesis 17:1

When Abram was ninety-nine years old, the Lord appeared to Abram and said to him, “I am Almighty God; walk before Me and be blameless.

When God first revealed Himself to Abram, He bared His soul when He introduced Himself as El-Shaddai; translated here as Almighty God. Literally the name “El-Shaddai”, means “the many breasted one.” The source of our supply is in His breasts. He is everything we need Him to be and then some.

God came to a man who worshiped the moon and made Himself vulnerable to him by allowing him to see His passionate desire to love and take care of him. The price of love is vulnerability, and out of vulnerability is born intimacy.

The intimacy of God’s affection for us is made starkly apparent in this image of His nakedness before us, continued most powerfully in the death of Jesus, naked on a cross in full view of sinful mankind.

What God reveals to us through these things, as well as to press home the force of His loving purposes towards us, is to teach us that the true hallmark of covenant is intimacy and openness.

Yet in society we are led to believe that our nakedness is a light and inconsequential thing and it doesn’t matter to whom we reveal it.

Be careful to whom you bare your soul and before whom you are willing to be physically and emotionally naked. These things are hallmarks of covenant.

Satan wants to keep the area of sexuality under wraps for most believers because anything that’s in darkness he can effectively control. Sadly, this is what’s happened to the church people. They became too “holy” to talk about these crucial areas, and made an access point for the enemy. Now Christians struggle with shame concerning their sexuality and their hunger for human intimacy.

Yet these areas are the things that determine our decisions and outcomes in life, far more than many other things. In fact, if you want to understand a man, look at his sexuality. If you want to understand a woman, look at who she has loved.

True love and intimacy is all about covenant, and covenant is a mature decision to commit to one person exclusively. As a man, you are not mature until you can give your whole self to one woman, without being driven by the felt need for novelty and excitement. Men get caught up in the pursuit of a new woman easily since they fail to understand that happiness is not the first objective in a marriage relationship – happiness is a by product of a relationship that is focused on being and achieving more together than could ever be experienced alone.

The most fulfilled men are the ones who fight to give themselves to the one they have chosen to love, and the real reward in life is the people you give your life to. You want to be able to look back and say, ” I spent my life on her and with her. She will never age or fade in my heart.”

That is the nature of true intimacy and true love.

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2 Comments on The nature of true love and intimacy

  1. Mary J Bryant // May 13, 2013 at 7:11 am // Reply

    Praise the Lord! How my heart burned from within reading such wisdom. I will hold these thoughts you have posted and ponder on them as recapitulation.

    God Blesd
    In God’s Hand & In God’s Service,
    Mary J. Bryant

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