One of the most profound things that we can ask God for is the ability to choose wisely in relationships.
So many people spend their years correcting mistakes and recovering from the consequences of poor decisions instead of pursuing their God-given purpose.
People fall into shallow relationships where they know that they are using the other person and that they are in turn being used, because they feel it is better than being alone. But the longer term perspective is sobering.
Sex outside of the marriage covenant always has a bitterness attached.
Our sexuality has a spiritual dimension. When we sleep with someone, we join ourselves to them in a profound way. Leaving behind a relationship which has included sex is far more devastating than if it had not. You literally leave part of yourself behind.
Cohabitation is commonly thought to be a great way of finding out if a couple is suited to each other. The woman co habits because she thinks she will move him towards marriage, and the man is thinking that he doesn’t need to go on the prowl any more because he can get a freebie for no effort. He doesn’t have to work for it. And ten years later he finds someone he wants to marry and leaves.
If he is really interested, he will call you. He will go and wait at the same bus stop where he saw you last just on the off chance that you will be there. If you, as a woman, let him have too much too soon, you are training him to be lazy. He will willingly accept your offer, but you are setting yourself up for heartbreak.
A man is not clear thinking before he sleeps with a woman, but afterwards he is clear. A woman is clear before she sleeps with him, but afterwards she loses her clarity.
If your emotions are not in check they are always stronger than your reason, and a premature sexual relationship will mask underlying issues that should be explored in the run up to a true commitment of marriage. The answer to every altercation will be to get in the bed, while the true issues go unresolved, only to emerge later when children may well be involved and things are much harder to work through.
God is able to keep you and to handle your emotions. He is able to provide you with a special someone who will truly answer the cry of your heart. Don’t take a hasty turn too soon. Let God direct your paths.