1 John 4;20
Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen.
The evidence of your love for God is your relationships. The vertical relationship is authenticated by the horizontal ones.
You are not going to impress God with how eloquently you pray if you don’t love. This is for show. There is something fake about a person parading their awesome relationship with God, if they treat the people around them with insensitivity.
When you break it down carefully it is evident that everything you do is going to either improve or hinder your relationships. All of life is, in fact, relationships. Everything that is happening to you is fundamentally affected by the level of the relationships you are involved in. Your financial wellbeing, your health, your state of mind, your opportunities your hopes and dreams – nothing affects your life like relationships.
From the very start of your life, you are born into a family. You don’t have a choice about whether or not you want relationships, you simply have a choice about how to function within them.
Success in relationships is determined by a proficiency in the skills of relating. Not knowing how to carry yourself in a marriage for example can be devastating to that marriage, since marriage in particular is an amplifier of the two people within it.
A lack of understanding how to resolve issues and find genuine peace may lead you to settle for peace at any cost, with many unresolved issues below the surface. Then, as a Christian, you end up feeling condemned because you aren’t doing a good job of loving your spouse as this verse commands.
The good news for believers is this: according to Philippians 2:1-4, we live our lives towards God first, and the people around us get the overflow of His love for us. This is such a different deal than when two people, fragmented in their souls through life’s challenges, try to take care of one another.
It’s vital to grow in this area of treating others with genuine care and honor if you want to appreciate as a human being.
The key: start to appreciate God’s love for you in all its facets. The way He treats us is awesome!