And God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”
In the story of Creation God found everything that He had made to be good. But then, all of a sudden, He declared something to be not good – man lacked the social context he needed in which to thrive.
Everything of significance that will happen in your life; be it through you, to you or in you, will be because of the relationships you are involved in.
Every one of your challenges, joys, frustrations and concerns, the way you see yourself and even your financial position is largely related to the relationships you have now or those you were reared in.
Even when we wish we didn’t, we need others. We have been created with a yearning for deep and meaningful relationships because we are made in the image of God and even He exists in the context of close relationship.
This does not mean that you need people around you all the time. You need also to be alone to discover who you are. You will never be distinguished if you are always with people and always have noise going on round you. Being alone can be very good.
What is not good is loneliness that comes as a result of a sense of disconnection from other human beings. This is not exclusive to single people; it can happen between people who are around each other. It has nothing to do with physical proximity or even marriage.
When seeking to establish a successful and meaningful relationship, ask the following questions:
- Do we have common commitments? Are we accountable to the same value system?
- Do we have common vision? It isn’t enough to like each other. Relationships with no sense of purpose quickly become very boring once the initial excitement has died down.
- Do we have a common life? Life’s real reward is who you spend your life with. Will you be proud to have spent your life on him or her since he or she will take the best of you?
One of the most valuable abilities that God can quicken in us is the ability to choose wisely. This is never more important than in the area of choosing relationships.
Praying for you today, that clarity will come to you. Blessings!