For the time being no discipline brings joy, but seems grievous and painful; but afterwards it yields a peaceable fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it
The quality and calibre of the person you are will always set the outer limits of your accomplishments. Character is the real reward in life. Yet no one comes with strong character ready made. It has to be developed.
The Word of God is the greatest tool we have for character training.
Webster’s dictionary of 1828 tells us that “character” comes from the word to engrave. Letters used to be called characters because they were literally engraved on a hard surface.
The Word preached under the anointing will make a mark on our soul and enable us to train our very senses unto godliness (Hebrews 5:14).
How good are you at undergoing training?
As well as placing ourselves consistently under a pastoral anointing where we can be taught the Word, feedback from others is an indispensable part of the training process.
Despite the discomforts of this, a person who wants to learn and grow, must also love and embrace the discipline and correction involved in genuine change and development.
When someone corrects you, don’t adopt a persecution mentality. No discipline feels good at the time but later on it yields a harvest of righteousness. Don’t play the victim if someone has plucked up the courage to confront you; that is a sign that it is your behavior that is actually victimizing other people. When what you are doing has a negative effect on others, they have a right to confront you.
When you are found in a fault you naturally feel unloved and fear of offence or shame rises up inside. But these are temporary situations on the way to correcting your behavior. Remember that there is a harvest of righteousness at stake.
Are you making it a hard job for people in your life to tell you the truth? Do you give out the vibe that you are always right?
Refusal to being corrected creates an impasse. You leave no common ground for negotiation and the other person has no alternative but to walk out on you.
The truth is that you are a poor deal in relationships unless you are ready to accept correction and change. Relationships that work are the product of long negotiations and adjusting, but the resulting harmony is worth it.
Tomorrow we will be looking at how to navigate some common pitfalls in handling correction and taking on our responsibility for personal change. Don’t miss it!